Charles Kafferman

Charles "Charlie" Kafferman

Wednesday, May 20th, 1931 - Saturday, July 6th, 2019
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The Heart of West Street Grill

Charles “Charlie” Kafferman died on July 6 at Danbury Hospital after a long illness. He was the spouse of James O’Shea, his life partner of forty-two years. Together they brought modern American dining to Connecticut earning the coveted Conde Nast Top-50 Best New Restaurants in the United States award when they opened the West Street Grill in Litchfield almost 30 years ago.

He was born in the Bronx on May 20, 1931 to Joseph and Celia Kafferman. Charlie served in the Army, and joined his uncle in the fashion industry in New York City for over three decades. He was a man about town, living in the highly-fashionable 64th Street neighborhood west of Park Avenue. Elegant, urbane and the ultimate sophisticate, he was a successful designer and manufacturer, running several major clothing companies, including Leslie Fay. He created several trends, including the Chassey jumpsuits.

Charlie traveled the world making women beautiful with his work. He was inspired by fashion shows in Paris, knew the city, and shared its mystery and love. He had family in Paris who introduced him to the likes of Yves Montand and Edith Piaf. He scouted the London fashion scene, and later the food scene in Dublin. He met his dear friend Mia Farrow the night she became engaged to Frank Sinatra at Gatsby’s in New York. His interest in literature and art allowed him to form friendships with William Styron and Philip Roth, whose death last year Charlie mourned. He was able to maintain his New York and Hollywood friendships while entertaining weekend visitors from New York when they visited the Grill.

He loved concerts; Tina Turner, the Rolling Stones, U2, and backstage with Mumford and Sons. Charlie also loved opera and saw Maria Callas, Pavarotti, Placido Domingo among others.

He was open and accepting and loved his full life, mostly because of the variety of people he met and appreciated. The stories he told thrilled children as well as adults who met him. He told a great joke, with flawless delivery, always. Despite his public face, he was a quiet man who loved to read, and he read voraciously. He recorded books for the blind.

Charlie maintained a presence in Litchfield County, first enjoying weekends on Lake Waramaug with James, and then in Warren, until they moved to Litchfield. Charlie became a permanent resident of Litchfield, a place he treasured as home. He became a fixture during the summer season on West Street in the center of historic Litchfield, sitting at an outside table at the Grill, most recently with his black Lab companion, Cashel. Everyone who passed by—friends, Grill regulars, illustrious area residents and first-time acquaintances—stopped to chat, give Cashel a belly rub, and walk away with a glow from the warmth Charlie radiated. He loved the Litchfield community, supported local charities and events, and was the source his friends Scot Haney and Kara Sundlun of WFSB Channel 3 chose to describe Litchfield’s “gems” for their “Better Connecticut” segment celebrating the town’s 300th anniversary.

He is survived by his near and dear first cousin, Ruth Glick and her sons Marshall and Howard, both of whom were Charlie’s godsons, all of New York.

A gathering to honor Charlie will be held at noon on Wednesday, July 10, at the Thurston Rowe Funeral Home, 283 Torrington Road, Litchfield. Friends may visit at the funeral home from 10 a.m. until noon. Burial will follow at St. Anthony Cemetery, 210 Whites Wood Road, Litchfield.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Oliver Wolcott Library in Litchfield.
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Service Details

  • Visitation

    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019 | 10:00am - 12:00pm
    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019 10:00am - 12:00pm
    Rowe Funeral Home
    283 Torrington Road
    Litchfield, CT 06759
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  • Service

    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019 | 12:00pm
    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019 12:00pm
    Rowe Funeral Home
    283 Torrington Road
    Litchfield, CT 06759
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    The Rev. Robert F. Tucker
  • Interment

    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019 |
    Wednesday, July 10th, 2019
    St. Anthony Cemetery
    210 Whites Wood Road
    Litchfield, Connecticut 06759
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Posted at 12:12pm
Such a lovely man.
And the consummate host at the WSG.
My wife and I consider the West Street Grill to be Litchfield County's finest restaurant, and would drive over from Farmington to celebrate special occasions.
This is a period of grieving for many of us, and our hearts go out to Charlie's partner, James. James, we wish you strength and peace in this saddest of times.

Marie and Brad Skinner

Posted at 09:12am
You're in our prayers and in our hearts, always.
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Linda Valentine

Posted at 11:13pm
A man of enduring gifts. Charlie will always hold a special place in my heart. With love and sympathy,
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